Listen to your Heart

The importance of having people you pick as family and the people you have around, when you get diagnosed with cancer it’s such a blow to you, and you need so much support off them, mentally and physically, I remember the first time of getting told and the thing I remember the most was looking at my partner and his eyes looked so sad, mike wasn’t crying it just had the saddest eyes! As you see your partner go into complete shock and disbelief that you are the one getting diagnosed with cancer! And this happens to so many people every minute of the day. 

I had a ladies hair i used to do called Shell who later became a friend to mike and myself, Shell was diagnosed with breast cancer and the reason i met shell was because she wanted me to do her hair, and sadly Shell passed away in 2019, I always remember Shell as a lady who brighten up any room she walked in and within a few mins she had you creased over laughing, I am very honoured to of met this beautiful lady and her amazing family through her battle,who she always told me about and loved so very very much. At one point we were both going through the treatment at the same time in which we both kept in contact with each other, so here are a few quotes by Shell herself about the battle with cancer…

“Cancer sucks dick”-Shell cancer fighter 

“Chemo Wednesday felt great Thursday and Friday rough Saturday Sunday back to work Monday”- Shell

“Shell worked all the way through her treatment for 6 years, Chemo in the morning work in the afternoon. She used to come home from work and tell me about the staff that were off that week with a cold and tell me I’ve got terminal cancer and I’m working and they go off with a cold, you can imagine the language coming from her. Her philosophy was that as long as she was working she wasn’t ill. Work took her mind of the cancer and she was just Shell.” –loving husband Phil

And Shell told us exactly what’s she thought so thank you so much Shell for being a kind and loving souls especially all fundraising you did for animals as Shell loved her dogs so much.


I’ve got some information from the nhs website on signs of breast cancer-

Most breast lumps are not cancerous, but it’s always best to have them checked by a doctor.

You should see a GP if you notice any of the following:

  • a new lump or area of thickened tissue in either breast that was not there before
  • a change in the size or shape of one or both breasts
  • a discharge of fluid from either of your nipples 
  • a lump or swelling in either of your armpits
  • dimpling on the skin of your breasts
  • a rash on or around your nipple
  • a change in the appearance of your nipple, such as becoming sunken into your breast

We should always listen to our bodies and if you feel that there isn’t something right go to a doctor if you still don’t feel right then get another opinion, 3rd opinion, 4th opinion ect… no one should suffer or feel scared that something isn’t right, so listen to your heart and your head and always go with your gut feeling.

luv max & the unknown


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